I feel like I can easily simplify the message for this Virgo New Moon. Yes, Mercury is moving into Libra on the same day. Yes, Venus is moving into Scorpio on the same day. This is all about purging and relationships. It’s about cutting out/editing and (sometimes) making the (tough) choices that are best for one’s own wellbeing. Each person is responsible his/her/their own life and circumstances. Our decisions begin very early on in our lives and the accountability begins there, even before we knew what we were doing. Our brain waves are in theta state for the majority of our childhood. We inherit perceptions and behaviors that we later have the responsibility to edit if we want our lives to perform differently than what that subconscious programming and the environment at the time allowed. Do we have a responsibility to know what we are doing? I think, yes. Being mindful of how actions affect others, perse if one lashes out at another in judgement and believes so righteously in one’s own narrow view, it doesn’t mean the other party has to participate or even agree with your perspective or identified reality. The thing is, no one is forced ‘into’ relationship. Relationships are like most working arrangements: “AT CHOICE.”

If someone wants to lash out to you due to their own delusions, let them, and merely remove yourself from the line of fire. You do not have to suffer the attacks of others because they “think” they love you, when in reality, their actions are their verbal abuse (Mercury movements) and misapplied projections. Virgo is not the same as its opposite sign of Pisces, which is more in the expression of “unconditional love” and has “trouble with boundaries,” and quite frankly: seeing clearly. That’s not to say that Pisces is wrong and Virgo is right. Absolutely not. It’s far more nuanced than that. Don’t make astrology into rigid blocks and definitions or caricatures.

Virgo uses an active discretion to carve out the healthy life one deserves to live, with people, who not only respect one’s boundaries, but one’s authority over oneself to be self governing, self-discriminating and aware of what is inherently good or bad for their given moment on this planet. In other words, Virgo helps us understanding alignment and proper situational service. It is a sign of mental awareness of one’s body and current conditions. You can destroy your body with your mind, or vice versa. The mind has that power over oneself.

Back to relationships, which is more appropriate for the specifics of this New Moon in Virgo and the imminent Venus retrograde. Look at the flags, red and green.

People who are willing to speak sensibly will not lash out when you protect your own space. That’s an easy red flag. One usually shows concern for the other when a boundary comes, respect is offered in healthy relationships. Do not confuse a boundary with a demand. I have heard toxic people try to insist that their boundary is that you behave a certain way; and it’s usually those people who still insist on the relationship in the first place, as long as it conforms to their toxic reality and perspective. Usually there is a sense “you owe me” in those relationships. It’s really easy to spot. If you place a boundary they will get mad. Overtime if you have grown up in such a toxic environment, you learn that self-protection is wrong. It can be very hard to live in a world with that false belief.

Lasher-outers, in fact, most likely lack self-respect themselves, and think you ought to help them continue such a program, unchecked. In your ultimate compassion, you still should not be in their line of fire. They will make you think that if you are their target, you’ll heal them, or be good for them in some way. Do not fall for it.

You are free to “slice” yourself free from toxic cords and open yourself to the life you are designed to live from your heart of sincerity. Virgo comes after Leo, a sign of the heart, but the Virgoan nature can be true, or harshly and destructively inaccurate–if it operates without heart at all (awareness, knowing, loving). Accuracy matters with Virgo. If someone doesn’t understand the harm they caused after one or two explanations;and shows no interest in understanding anything besides their own position, you can most likely figure that no amount of energy you invest in them or in the communication attempts will lead to more understanding. They are not interested in understanding. They are only interested in being “right” in your “wronging of them,” because you are not conforming to their expectations of how things should go. You are not conforming to their reality as they know it. That confuses them, because they cannot comprehend that they are wrong–there isn’t an inkling of doubt in them, which is a bit odd.

At this Virgo New Moon, it’s time to release the victim and focus on those healthy relationships that I know you have; and if you don’t have any, it’s likely you need even deeper self examination, and more personal accountability. Love will never be a scorecard; and people who are loved, when it is true, will simply feel respected. The will FEEL loved. They don’t need to be convinced that you are the right, and loving one. That’s how simple it really is.

Now go build your schedule and your health around the people, work, and relationships that truly have your wellbeing in mind; they will always be willing to listen and collaborate, or negotiate–especially if they were momentarily in their feelings and got a chance to reflect and make amends, or are interested in repair.

Anyone else, is simply asking you to negate them from your field, and stop allowing them to be the energetic vampire. You are NOT serving them if this is what they are doing. You are contributing to the problem if you don’t free yourself.